Thanksgiving Beyond the Grave-y

The dancing aroma of food cooking always calls in someone well known from long ago or a close association.  I am sitting back in my bedroom and my son is cooking a roux from scratch.  The food aroma moves though out the house making me think of my mother and probably how shocked she might be that her grandson who grew up in her kitchen would be making a roux like some kids would make themselves a glass of chocolate milk.  I can’t see the aroma but I can smell it and it is familiar.  I imagine there are layers of the cooking on many levels that isn’t just from the pot to my nose or the pot to my mouth.  The food cooking is energy. The food exists on a spirit level in the non-physical.  This is evoking my memory of souls past summoning them in. 

Daddy would go shrimping and bring in a big catch of shrimp and crab and flounder from the waters of Mobile Bay.  I swore when I was looking for a husband one the first questions I would ask was “Do you fish or hunt?”  If the answer was “Yes” I was to turn and walk away.  As a child growing up I had all of the slimly fishy water, shrimp heads and deer blood I cared to exist with ever.  When I did get married and looked in the freezer I was completely clueless what to do with hamburger meat.  I had a bold shocking reality of how the mess Daddy made bringing all of that wildlife into the kitchen that was such a pain to clean up, went into the freezer and the role it in played in my culinary basic training.

Now I know that food travels with us into the afterlife. When we die soul exits the body. Your body is a temporary vessel that houses the soul as we have this physical life experience. It is very similar to taking off a glove.  Soul is who we are.  Soul is eternal.  Soul has memory.  You are not your body.  Knowing that soul has memory I want you to know that not only the people we love remain important to us, but so do the other things we love like roast rice and gravy.  One soul allowed me to see and smell the most wonderful fried chicken ever.  I am a conduit for the non-physical and deliver messages to our loved ones who remain here on the planet.  I am much like a pizza delivery guy, but I am delivering messages phoned in from your dead loved ones and believe me there are a lot of messages about food.  I have a symbol for diabetics and I see that one frequently too.  Recently one soul showed me Little Debbie snack cakes, but it was the oatmeal crème pies.  I delivered that message and one of the children in the family I was reading for said “Grand ma loved those!”  “We would take her a big box of those every time we went to see her!”

Now that I have convinced you that food is important to your loved ones, and if I haven’t you should go to my website southernmedium.com.  There are many storie encouraging you to remember your deceased loved ones on special occasions such as their birthday.  Just because you can’t see your loved ones any longer doesn’t mean you “lost” them.  They are still near.  Believe it or not it is true.  We still want to be recognized and remembered even after death.

This Thanksgiving set a place at the table for your loved ones who are no longer in their body.  When you pray before dinner thank God for your ancestors who have gone on ahead of you.  One place at the table will be appreciated for all of your loved ones and great memories from Thanksgivings past.  We fill our Thanksgiving table with friends and loved ones so lets include the ones we never stop feeling the loss of during the holidays.  They can’t be with us in the body but they are very much with us in spirit.  Those that have died leaving the earth leave us with an empty spot in our hearts.  Help fill that spot by giving them a seat at the table and remember they are still with you. 

Thanksgiving is about gratitude.  Place many pictures around and share funny stories.  Bring out their favorite hat or even boots.  Be thankful for how they enriched your life.  By doing this you are honoring them and they will be attracted to you by your thoughts and kindness.  Those who you cared for as they were dying will show me a symbol that means “Thank you for what you did for me.”  Gratitude and giving thanks follows us beyond the grave.

The following are typical questions I am usually asked when encouraging people to set a place at the table on a special occasion for a loved one.

1.“Does Aunt Gilda still hate that I use margarine instead of butter?”    

If Aunt Gilda cared then she probably still cares now however I don’t think it means two cents to her what you use, the fact that you remember she wanted you to use butter is what means the most to her.  I personally agree with Aunt Gilda, go for the butter.

2. Do I need to actually put food at the empty seat?     

The purpose of the place setting is to include and remember them.  I would place food on the plate.  If they have leftovers I would eat those too. (Just saying!)

3. How do I know they are with me at my house and not at my bitch first cousins house?    

 When you summons your loved ones with food they may show up at the home of the better cook.  All of this is about energy and love and gratitude. Calling your first cousin a bitch causes the living and dead to want to run.

4.  We didn’t say nice things to each other when they were living.  Does this matter?  

  I have noticed when there is tension between a deceased loved one and the living, the deceased will show up but keep their distance.  You must talk it out even when the one you were at odds with is in the non-physical.  This will encourage forgiveness which is a necessity in moving on spiritually.

5.  They hated my spouse.  Will this stop them from coming?     No.  I can tell you however people are always surprised to see how many mother in laws show up at their readings.  When we pass and have a full life review I believe we are shown how we made other people feel.  In laws are a lot of times the first ones to come though even if there has been a divorce, because once again this is about asking for forgiveness and sending love and gratitude. (I don’t make this stuff up people.)

6.  I don’t have an actual empty seat.  What can I do?  

  Invite them in any way, and make certain you speak of them during your meal bringing attention to the fact you made your stuffing the exact same way your Mother did.  Tell one of your guest he is sharing his seat.

7.  I’ve never done this before, are they going to be mad it took me so long to honor them?

 No.  The time line on the other side is not the same as what we see and understand as a linear time line here.

8.  My family thinks this is dumb.  How can I make them believe our loved ones are still here?

 You will never be able to influence another persons belief system until it is their time to open their heart and feel their loved ones near. You are only held accountable for your own beliefs.  Also keep in mind, “You can’t fix stupid.”