Friday, August 25, 2017

Storms in Your Life #Harvey

Mans natural instinct is to divide and conquer.  The energy of me against you is either taught or possibly in our DNA.  I do not know for sure, but that seems to be how humans want to move through life finding ways we are different.  I am grieved to type this.  It reminds me of the eclipse a few days ago.  I was in a doctor’s office while Charlie was undergoing a hearing test.  There was one receptionist in the room with me.  As I was sitting watching the eclipse on television, I became overwhelmed with love for the people of the planet who experience discrimination because of their skin color.  I prayed and wept as I sat alone in the corner of the waiting area.  The receptionist had stepped out to lunch.  When she returned we began to talk.  She was a woman of color.  Together we agreed in Jesus name to pray peace and blessings over the hearts of people who are motivated by hate and bigotry.  When I left the office with Charlie there were other staff members who came in where we were no longer alone.  It was time to go.  She and I hugged and embraced for several seconds.  As I was walking out the door I turned and said “What is your name?” She told me. I smiled and said “I’m Allyson.” Charlie and I  walked out.  Getting in the car Charlie said, “Did you read for her”? I said “No.” He didn’t ask me anything else.

My point in telling you this is that we are at a point today August 25, 2017 in the United States of America where we can no longer focus on how we are different but what we must do to survive.  Recently Spirit said to me “America is not safe.”  It was during the past week or so where North Korea was in the news a lot, and I assumed that was what was meant.  I know now the message was not about North Korea.  We are not safe from our selves and how destructive we lead our lives.  We are not safe when the earth’s atmosphere becomes violent from natural occurrences.

I received a prophetic message earlier this week that it was going to be a wet hurricane season.  I posted that on my Facebook Tuesday August 21st.  Yesterday I was walking along the beach in Gulf Shores, Alabama.  The beach and water and sky could not have been more beautiful.  I was in deep gratitude for the planet.  As I was walking back to my car with my feet in the dry white sand I saw a vision of globs of oil along the beach.  I recalled in my heart the angst of seeing the beautiful gulf coast plagued from oil spills in the past.  I felt in my heart God was telling me there is one coming.

I am asking that you pray.  Put down your swords and guns from the battles you live and create every day, while fighting those around you.  Let go of whom you hate.  Turn your back on those who hurt you.  Get on your knees and ask your higher power for protection for all the people of the earth.  Pray peace and blessings on those who hate you.  Forgive those who you know don’t love you.  I am personally experiencing rejection from the people I love the most.  I send them more love.  I will allow them to make there own choices and move through their lives in the way that works best for them.  I know what pain and suffering is.  I know what rejection feels like.  The good news is I don’t remember whom it is I’m not suppose to love.   I just continue to move through life as though nothing happened because the truth is even though the hurt has bruised my soul,  I have new goals to conquer.  If forgetting is a gift, then that is my greatest gift that God gave me.  I can tell you that not remembering everything is not a bad thing.

I am asking that each of you surrender to God and ask “How may I serve”?  What can you do to bring peace to this planet? Start with your own life.  Focus on what is the most important thing you can do to think and speak words of kindness and compassion over your own life. 

I am asking God in the name of Jesus to cover the earth with protection from deception and lies’ and pray we will all be kept safe from the storms of life.  I am a follower of Christ.  Some of you are other religions.  I honor that.  Connect with your heart going within and ask “What would my God do?” 

All of my love,

Allyson Glyn Schram

Friday, August 11, 2017

Who Are You Sleeping With?



     I am not writing this referring to one individual but to so many women who can't figure out why their romantic life isn't what they want.  Now if there is anyone to teach about romance it is NOT me.  I KNOW I have difficulty allowing people to get close to me and this includes marriage.  In numerology I  have what is called 2 - 5 energy in my birthdate.  The 2 in numerology is very loving and lovable while the 5 says "Keep Your Distance!".  I can recognize this duality in people's personalities right off the bat.  If your actions are saying love me love me love, "Don't you love me?" but you are carrying around a great big psychic "GO AWAY" sign above your head, you are sending out mixed messages.  What is it that you want?  Do you want to be loved or do you want to be left alone?  If your answer is "Both." then you have some decisions to make.  

     I cannot tell you how important it is to "Know thyself".  You cannot get to know you without sitting down in silence, going within and knowing how you feel.  When you know what you don't want it is so much easier to know what you do want.  That is where your past is so valuable.  Through what you have learned so far in life, the pain and choices you've made have helped you to identify what does not work for you. (WE HOPE)  Start by spending time in silence and ask yourself simple questions.  "What makes me happy."  "What would I have done differently."  Take this wisdom and go forward.

Now here is where this blog gets good.

     When I went through the Hilton training program becoming a hotel manager, I had to spend two weeks working with the housekeeping department.  I learned everything there is to know about cleaning a hotel room.  What Hilton did not teach me, is that I could read the energy on the bed from the hotel guest who had slept there the night before.  I could tell what type of rest they had.  I could feel if they were troubled.   Corporate anxiety and being under pressure with business travel was different from leisure travel energy.

      Then I got to thinking.  If I can read the imprint of the energy left on the bed, what the hell does that say about the energy imprint left on me from whom ever I slept with?  I was terrified.  So ok, there wasn't just the craziness or insanity from whatever that partner carried in their energy field, but knowing I may have had sex with them, they left their bodily fluids inside of my body.  OH MY GOD! Now our DNA is mixed and that is a permanent soul marker!!! Sexually transmitted disease was a totally different thing from what I am talking about.  Maybe a trip to the doctor will solve your STD problem, but now you have an imprint of what they carry in their energy field imprinted in your energy field!!  This is unbearable for me to think of. As I write I still throw my head back and shutter over realizing how badly I messed up.  If they had craziness in their life, hatred, resentment addictions, lack consciousness or any of those lower energies they carried in their aura, now I just dove in and said "Yes I will have a big heaping serving of all of that in my life too!"  "Thank you very much."  It works similar to placing your hand into piece of memory foam.  When you remove your hand your imprint stays and slowly lifts out.

When you find your life and relationships are not working you must STOP and clean yourself up. Look at what you have been attracting being aware you are carrying energies from past relationships everywhere you go.  You are allowing all that you don't want to bleed into new relationships.

Ladies I am 59 years old.  I was the Queen of one night stands in the late 1970's into the 1980's.  My life was a disaster.  Now I look back and know my sexual behavior was sabotaging any success I may desire.  I will not be sharing my body as I grow older, but for those of you who crave intimacy I beg of you to not just look for tall, dark and handsome or how well they dance. Look at what is in their life and ask if you want a big fat helping of all that too.

All my love,
Allyson

Saturday, August 5, 2017

"No Thank You I'll Do It Myself" said the dead man.

Recently I was interviewed by a casting director from the United Kingdom looking for psychics.  One of the many questions she asked me was, "Has there ever been a situation where you could not read for someone?"  I answered "Yes!"  "On occasion in my career people have said "No" to everything, only later to come back and say..."Is this what you meant" or something like "I now know what that is".  I also told her I have actually had to tell people if they have been drinking or are taking drugs that numb them out it is difficult for me to step into their energy to only tell them they are blocking whatever it is they are supposed to be receiving. The story I am about to tell occurred after my interview.  I want to share it with you.  It is the first time I can recall this has happened.

A woman I don't know booked a reading.  She had a wonderful reading hearing from her ex mother in law who was really strong with a dictator type energy.  She told me her Mother in law was from Czechoslovakia and was very strong in life and opinionated. The energy of her daughter who is living was coming through with current issues she is going though. I kept seeing my sign for suicide and lower energies.  The client recognized that.  I saw a man with a mustache and other specific features she knew to be her Dad.  I saw a layered cake which is my sign of a birthday cake.  She said "Today is his birthday." There were many things he showed me including that he was in the army but I never saw a flag.  She told me he was in the British army.  Later in the reading I did see a flag that was folded in a triangle as they place in the hands of family of the widow of a fallen soldier at the funeral.  She told me that he was given an American flag at his funeral as a gift of having served even though he was in the British Army.   I heard "Orange Street" she confirmed they grew up on "Orange Street". All of this confirmation but he wasn't really talking to me and she wanted more from him.

I was frustrated I had him and he was showing me things with me relaying what I was seeing.  It just wasn't enough for her.  It wasn't enough for me either.  It felt like he wasn't going to talk.  I didn't get it!  It felt like he was holding back.  She wanted to hear specific quotes from him but there was NOTHING.  We reached the end of our reading and both were happy with what we had accomplished even though she didn't get the messages she was looking for.

The next day I received this text:

Allyson- just wanted to tell you of two things that happened yesterday after our reading - I was working on a project & had the TV on but wasn't really watching it.  I just happened to look up at it and at that exact moment the words "Ship Shape" were on the screen as the title of the next segment that was coming on.  If you remember the saying I wanted to hear from my Dad was "Ship shape in Bristol fashion"! Then later when I was driving to the nursing home to see my Mom, a blue Mylar Happy Birthday balloon floated through the air right in front of my car! I think he was trying to let me know he's there!

As the conduit for the messages I believe he was holding back with me, because he had a big surprise for her planned and he didn't want me to deliver the message for him because he wanted to do it.  I can't recall something this strong and so significant that the non physical carried out after I knew they were holding back.  I am happy for your loved one to steal the show and kick me to the curb.  It's all God so you go God!

Never underestimate the power of your loved ones.  Just because you can't see them does NOT mean they are not with you.

Tuesday, June 20, 2017

Baby Showed Heroic Faith Hope and Love

Over and over every day I teach there is no such thing as death.  I do so because it is what I know to be my truth.  I hear from the deceased.  I see them. I can feel how they suffered and they let me know what brought them joy.  This is evident in all of the many ready readings I have done.  It took Victoria Lynn to teach me I was right.

I had a family of a little girl contact me wanting me to give them information on their child.  I tapped into her energy and even though she was a toddler I saw her with braces on her legs.  The family validated that in her short life, she has had braces on her legs. When I saw her she was walking with crutches, wearing braces on her legs.  While on the phone with the family I immediately felt the loving energy of Charlene Marie Richard. The grandmother validated they had indeed placed a prayer card in memory of Charlene under their baby's pillow the day before.

 Charlene Richard was born January 13, 1947. After being diagnosed with acute lymphatic leukemia she died on August 11, 1959 at the age of 12.  During her confinement in Our Lady of Lourdes Hospital in Lafayette, Louisiana Charlene would offer her prayers and suffering to God each day for the benefit of others. "She was a faith-filled little girl." said Father Joseph Brennan, a priest for the Diocese of Lafayette, Louisiana who was serving as hospital chaplain and ministered to Charlene during her final days.  "I see Charlene as a witness for people of all ages to the power of resignation and acceptance of God's will." said Father Brennan.  "She was't different in any way except that when the crisis came in her life - and it came very early - she accepted it with faith and trust and love."

The grandmother of Victoria Lynn told me that EVERYBODY in the hospital knew Victoria Lynn. "Victoria drew people to her." she said.  I am so amazed with Victoria's life.  She went through more pain and suffering than any of us could imagine. When in the womb Victoria's mother was told her baby's spine was not connected to the brainstem.  When Victoria was born her spine and brain stem were perfectly attached and the doctors called it a miracle.   The doctors told the family Victoria would have Down Syndrome but that wasn't the case either.  You may read about Victoria's struggles on a Facebook page called "Prayers for Victoria Lynn".

On many occasions she went into cardiac arrest and always came back to life smiling.  Once her heart stopped and the family rushed her to the ER where the staff while weighing her took their time with this deceased infant.  A doctor came in picked her up and took her to another room and preformed CPR on her. Her grandmother said "She woke up giggling." "Thats just who Victoria is!"  She continues to beat all odds.  She is a miracle baby.

As I spoke with this family and prayed and meditated and asked for answers I was able to tap right into her energy.  The family would validate the things I saw and the people in spirit who were standing by.  Not once did my guides ever make me feel or believe that Victoria was going to die.  I saw a bottle of champagne being uncorked meaning to me it was time to celebrate. The symbols were always about hope and joy and love.  I saw Jesus and angels in her room, but I was thinking they were on standby.  They were fully present.  How could I continue to believe that Victoria's little soul was not going to exit her body when science said otherwise?  I don't use my head or overthink this I go with my higher self.  I promised that grandmother I didn't believe Victoria would leave, but she did. Victoria got out of her painful body the afternoon I was shown a bottle of champagne.

This morning when I woke up I saw Victoria sitting up in the lap of a woman. The baby wasn't smiling or giggling but simply looking around and appeared perfectly content.  Her skin color was normal and her features were smaller.  I am thinking she was less swollen than the way she looked in the pictures. The woman had on a necklace or a chain that the baby was playing with.  I did not see the woman's face.  During the time Victoria was alive I kept hearing "Maw Maw".  I assumed that was the grandmother but was told "No." "Maw Maw was the great grandmother."  I believe it was Maw Maw I saw holding Victoria Lynn this morning.

Just as Charlene Richard showed heroic faith, hope and love while her body was dying so did Victoria Lynn Landry.  I know that Victoria Lynn wasn't from this planet or was a special angel from God, or a saint or something beyond "normal".  What Victoria has taught me, which may be a number of things I'm just unaware of right now, but the one thing is that I have one symbol for death.  It is a shovel.  I did see a shovel but it was always standing up when reading for Victoria.  It wasn't turned over like I see it when a death has passed and it wasn't up like we were getting reading to dig as if to say a death is coming. The shovel was standing straight up.  I just did not feel she was going anywhere and gave false hope to the family.  My heart is broken but what Victoria has taught me is that she isn't gone, she is just out of her body.  Soul is eternal and for that we need to celebrate.


Monday, April 17, 2017

Which Ship Are You On

There are about a Godzilla million reasons to say "God save us."  That is easy and logical at this time, especially just celebrating Easter.  I struggle with to want to give up.  The work is the journey.  We are on the cruise ship of life sailing to who knows where.  There are a million risks.  I think most of our cruises are on the boat with the Skipper and Gilligan, but what we need to work for is our cruise to be on the Good Ship Lolly Pop.  Every day we need to stop and comfort ourselves with "This too shall pass."

I wake each morning and scan the atmosphere.  I can feel if it's all clear in my energy field which includes my children and grand children and my bank account.  I learned to start each day by checking my bank account to see if there are any surprises that I failed to recognize.  I was reviewing my back account in detail this morning, when Spirit said to me "Call an ambulance."  I rolled my eyes and said out loud "Yes a financial ambulance."  I also picked up my phone and called Charlie to check on him in case he needed an ambulance.  My point in this is that my guides have a sense of humor.  It is so important that we maintain a sense of humor.  There are times there is NOTHING to laugh about, but if we lose our ability to laugh we lose everything.

My symbol for joy when I am reading or in trance is an ice-cream cone. If it is upside down then I know there isn't so much joy in that persons life.  I can sit here and start with the last person I spent time with and just review the lives of others.  Foreclosure and being on the street by Friday, newly discovered ST D's from a cheating boyfriend, gosh now you see why God takes away my ability to remember?  I step into the energies each and every day.  The sexual abuse of a child and the child's detailed memory of the abuse and quoting what the abuser said to her to make it a game.  I am sickened.  Now you see why I feel death is the reward?  Going to be with God and getting out of these bodies that house the soul is the completion of wisdom.

So many of us missed and dreamt of family members this past Easter Sunday, but the homecoming event and love was on the other side.  I love you guys but we have to quit the pity party and realize we are grieving over the souls of the ones we loved the most who are finally in a much better place than they are if they were here with you.  They completed their journey.  Now it is time for us to put on our big girl panties or boxer briefs every day and complete our mission by free style each day and move on.  Our loved ones are happy and will be with us in spirit and and will send protection and hear our prayers.  It is up to us to beat the loneliness and look up at the milky way and wait on the apocalypse and see if it will happen.

God allows me to have the ability to see symbols and hear messages.  I will continue to share those with you when you book readings with me.  The majority of my readings are on the phone now.  I want to hear from you and step into your energy and read for each of you.  You must go to my website www.southernmedium.com and book it yourself.  I will record the reading and email it to you when we are through.

Thursday, December 1, 2016

Come Clean With The Deceased

There is one thing I know for sure.  I don’t have all this figured out yet about what happens when we die.  I read for people every day who are wanting to hear from their loved ones and receive validation.  People realize that their loved ones are still connected to them once their soul exited the body.  I heard myself say yesterday “I don’t have a direct line to heaven.”  Then I felt uncomfortable immediately with the words I just spoke and quickly followed with “Well maybe I do.”  I do spend each day asking to hear from different loved ones of all nationalities from all over the world and even though there may have been a language difference in the body while on the planet it doesn’t seem to be a problem after death.  Soul language is a language of feeling.  It is a knowing that does not require words.  I do hear and am clairaudient . The only language I speak is English, but I also do a lot of “sounds like…” and then phonetically I will pronounce what I am hearing. 

I am saying all of this about how those in spirit communicate.  Let me tell you about how they don’t communicate with me and what I have learned.  When I ask to step into the energy of a specific person for a client that has booked an appointment the first thing I do is call in my guides, my angels and heavenly helpers and ask them to bring through the messages for this person.  When I sit and pray and meditate receiving close to a blank screen, I know there is something amiss.  I have learned through thousands of readings that we have a problem when I get nothing.  Through faith I have learned I don’t have a problem, but there is a problem in the relationship between the deceased and the loved one coming for the appointment. I can step into that persons energy and know things or receive information I thank God that this is something I am now at ease about and no longer beat myself up over.  If there are unspoken words from a quarrel or disagreement that happened between two people and one of them died, from what I have learned it is going to stay that way in some cases until we work those feelings of unresolved hurt and anger out.  By working it out I mean asking for forgiveness from the other side.  When we ask forgiveness from God, we need to know first of all we have gone within and forgiven ourselves for what ever we may be carrying around in a form of guilt and shame.  Then thirdly we need to speak to that person on the other side and literally talk it out.  I mean sit down and have a conversation with your loved one as if they were still here.  I consider this spiritual work that is allowed in order for spiritual growth to occur.  I do believe that when we die that our soul carries memory.  I believe that includes the good and the bad.  God gives us an opportunity to work that out even after we die. 

Yesterday I had a man come to see me.  He wasn’t up front with me from the moment he booked the appointment.  I happened to answer the phone when he first called, and from the moment I heard his voice I instantly handed the phone off to my son.  I didn’t like the vibration of his voice.  Then after he books my son tells me that the man wasn’t comfortable booking through our regular booking system on line, and wasn’t going to secure his time through PayPal.  I knew there was a needle in the haystack here.  I allowed him to book anyway with me not feeling good about it from the beginning. 

My children and my grandchildren are very psychic.  I was texting with my grand daughter Cait the day of his appointment.  I told her I had an appointment soon and had to go.  She sent me a text back and said “Nana please get your money up front because I feel as though he isn’t going to pay you.”  There were other texts from her even saying “…do it for me and ask to be paid up front.”  I never ask for money up front because I want to be certain I did my job and I am not going to take money from anyone if I feel they have not benefitted from the reading.

 It takes my breath away right now thinking of people whose intent is not good.  They will not have a good reading because my guides and angels will not allow messages to come through.  There has to be an equal exchange of energy in order for one to receive what they are looking for.  It isn’t because I am so brilliant or such a wonderful mystic, but simply we are dealing with God here.  This information doesn’t come from me.  If you come into to my energy wanting to receive a message or healing, you better come with an open heart and willing to shed a few tears and do the work that needs to be done, otherwise you are flushing your time and money down the toilet.  Your loved ones will not come forward front and center if there is still anger, or unresolved bitterness or ill intent on your part.  I don’t know if it is a form of protection for me, so I don’t get hit will all of that, or if it because there is no resolve. 

One of my dearest friends was the HR Director for a very famous Psychic Hotline for phone readings.  She recently told me how glad she was that I never went to work for them doing readings over the phone. I had turned down a position recruiting and screening psychics seeking employment with them in a region of the South Eastern United States. She stated that it was unbelievable the high rate number of mediums that had died from cancer. 

I knew that as I sat there in front of the man who arrived an hour late, the man I didn’t want to read for from the beginning, the man that my 18 year old grand daughter who lives a thousand miles away told me up front before he arrived he wasn’t going to pay me, that it was a bad experience.  He said “No” to everything.  I knew I wasn’t going to take his money.  At the end of the hour he started validating so much of what he had said “No” to.  I am reminded of the television star Mr. T with all the gold necklaces and the Mohawk hair cut that made the line famous “I pity the fool…”.  I pity the fool that comes in and plays games with the nonphysical.

What I do know for sure is that he needed to hear from his Dad.  I had spent a lot of time telling him there was unresolved issues that were important to him and we needed to go directly to those issues and speak to his Dad about them.  His Dad came through wearing a fedora hat.  My client admitted at the end of the visit that he did have unspoken words of emotional upset and discord that should be shared, however the client had lied to me the entire time of his visit.  He wasn’t going to come clean now with his Dad so he shifted gears.  He then went on to ask me questions about should he sell his house and a number of other things regarding money.  I patiently answered his questions and after an hour and a half of “getting no where” in his words I kindly walked him out.  I apologized we didn’t accomplish all that he had hoped to accomplish.   There was no money exchanged.  Standing at the door he asked “You don’t want anything?”  I said “I just want you to be happy.”  He walked away and I closed the door.


My intent in writing this was to say “Do not play games with God.”  You may play games with me and use my time that I allow you to use, but please open your heart and be ready to do the work that needs to be done when you are thinking you want messages from your loved ones.  This is a healing work.  I have had counselors tell me that I accomplished more in two hours than they had in two years.  Once again this isn’t about me, but it is about you.  Your loved ones are ready, willing and able to communicate with you when you are ready. 

Sunday, November 6, 2016

Thanksgiving Beyond the Grave-y

The dancing aroma of food cooking always calls in someone well known from long ago or a close association.  I am sitting back in my bedroom and my son is cooking a roux from scratch.  The food aroma moves though out the house making me think of my mother and probably how shocked she might be that her grandson who grew up in her kitchen would be making a roux like some kids would make themselves a glass of chocolate milk.  I can’t see the aroma but I can smell it and it is familiar.  I imagine there are layers of the cooking on many levels that isn’t just from the pot to my nose or the pot to my mouth.  The food cooking is energy. The food exists on a spirit level in the non-physical.  This is evoking my memory of souls past summoning them in. 

Daddy would go shrimping and bring in a big catch of shrimp and crab and flounder from the waters of Mobile Bay.  I swore when I was looking for a husband one the first questions I would ask was “Do you fish or hunt?”  If the answer was “Yes” I was to turn and walk away.  As a child growing up I had all of the slimly fishy water, shrimp heads and deer blood I cared to exist with ever.  When I did get married and looked in the freezer I was completely clueless what to do with hamburger meat.  I had a bold shocking reality of how the mess Daddy made bringing all of that wildlife into the kitchen that was such a pain to clean up, went into the freezer and the role it in played in my culinary basic training.

Now I know that food travels with us into the afterlife. When we die soul exits the body. Your body is a temporary vessel that houses the soul as we have this physical life experience. It is very similar to taking off a glove.  Soul is who we are.  Soul is eternal.  Soul has memory.  You are not your body.  Knowing that soul has memory I want you to know that not only the people we love remain important to us, but so do the other things we love like roast rice and gravy.  One soul allowed me to see and smell the most wonderful fried chicken ever.  I am a conduit for the non-physical and deliver messages to our loved ones who remain here on the planet.  I am much like a pizza delivery guy, but I am delivering messages phoned in from your dead loved ones and believe me there are a lot of messages about food.  I have a symbol for diabetics and I see that one frequently too.  Recently one soul showed me Little Debbie snack cakes, but it was the oatmeal crème pies.  I delivered that message and one of the children in the family I was reading for said “Grand ma loved those!”  “We would take her a big box of those every time we went to see her!”

Now that I have convinced you that food is important to your loved ones, and if I haven’t you should go to my website southernmedium.com.  There are many storie encouraging you to remember your deceased loved ones on special occasions such as their birthday.  Just because you can’t see your loved ones any longer doesn’t mean you “lost” them.  They are still near.  Believe it or not it is true.  We still want to be recognized and remembered even after death.

This Thanksgiving set a place at the table for your loved ones who are no longer in their body.  When you pray before dinner thank God for your ancestors who have gone on ahead of you.  One place at the table will be appreciated for all of your loved ones and great memories from Thanksgivings past.  We fill our Thanksgiving table with friends and loved ones so lets include the ones we never stop feeling the loss of during the holidays.  They can’t be with us in the body but they are very much with us in spirit.  Those that have died leaving the earth leave us with an empty spot in our hearts.  Help fill that spot by giving them a seat at the table and remember they are still with you. 

Thanksgiving is about gratitude.  Place many pictures around and share funny stories.  Bring out their favorite hat or even boots.  Be thankful for how they enriched your life.  By doing this you are honoring them and they will be attracted to you by your thoughts and kindness.  Those who you cared for as they were dying will show me a symbol that means “Thank you for what you did for me.”  Gratitude and giving thanks follows us beyond the grave.

The following are typical questions I am usually asked when encouraging people to set a place at the table on a special occasion for a loved one.


1.“Does Aunt Gilda still hate that I use margarine instead of butter?”    
If Aunt Gilda cared then she probably still cares now however I don’t think it means two cents to her what you use, the fact that you remember she wanted you to use butter is what means the most to her.  I personally agree with Aunt Gilda, go for the butter.

2. Do I need to actually put food at the empty seat?     
The purpose of the place setting is to include and remember them.  I would place food on the plate.  If they have leftovers I would eat those too. (Just saying!)

3. How do I know they are with me at my house and not at my bitch first cousins house?    
 When you summons your loved ones with food they may show up at the home of the better cook.  All of this is about energy and love and gratitude. Calling your first cousin a bitch causes the living and dead to want to run.

4.  We didn’t say nice things to each other when they were living.  Does this matter?  
  I have noticed when there is tension between a deceased loved one and the living, the deceased will show up but keep their distance.  You must talk it out even when the one you were at odds with is in the non-physical.  This will encourage forgiveness which is a necessity in moving on spiritually.

5.  They hated my spouse.  Will this stop them from coming?     No.  I can tell you however people are always surprised to see how many mother in laws show up at their readings.  When we pass and have a full life review I believe we are shown how we made other people feel.  In laws are a lot of times the first ones to come though even if there has been a divorce, because once again this is about asking for forgiveness and sending love and gratitude. (I don’t make this stuff up people.)

6.  I don’t have an actual empty seat.  What can I do?  
  Invite them in any way, and make certain you speak of them during your meal bringing attention to the fact you made your stuffing the exact same way your Mother did.  Tell one of your guest he is sharing his seat.

7.  I’ve never done this before, are they going to be mad it took me so long to honor them?
 No.  The time line on the other side is not the same as what we see and understand as a linear time line here.

8.  My family thinks this is dumb.  How can I make them believe our loved ones are still here?

 You will never be able to influence another persons belief system until it is their time to open their heart and feel their loved ones near. You are only held accountable for your own beliefs.  Also keep in mind, “You can’t fix stupid.”